How to choose a wedding venue for your boho themed wedding day

How to choose a wedding venue for your boho themed wedding day

By Lucy

If you are a bohemian couple through and through, then you will be looking for the ideal wedding space for your free-spirited wedding day. Something unique and special, while still natural and relaxed. Somewhere that you can celebrate your individual love story with all the personality and magic of your romance up to this point.

Everybody wants a venue that is different, but it is very important that your venue be out of the box and completely one of a kind. You want somewhere with the ability to open its doors wide and welcome your family and friends to your love festival, with food, drink, and ambience that lasts for days.

We have some incredible ideas for truly original boho weddings and have seen some of the very best at our partner venues. If you are looking for the perfect bohemian wedding venue, these are the absolute must-haves on your list.

How to choose your boho themed wedding venue
Connected to nature

A bohemian wedding venue is usually firmly rooted in nature, although it doesn’t always have to be.

Part of the awesomeness of a bohemian wedding is that there are no rules, so you could also choose an urban boho venue that is completely rooted in the heart of the CBD, such as the refurbished ruins of the Abbotsford Convent in the heart of Melbourne.

But usually it will be at one with nature; allowing barefoot brides to say their vows on the sand or dip their toes in the twinkling ocean, or allowing quiet ceremonies under weeping willows followed by all-night receptions under the stars.

Bohemian means connecting with one’s natural environment, so look for a venue that embraces Mother Nature in all its glory; so no manicured gardens or manmade lawns, but instead sweeping trees, majestic mountains, babbling creeks, unkempt beaches and rugged, natural spaces.

For example, check out Barefoot Beach Weddings in the Margaret River region.

Bare bones décor to build your own masterpiece

Your boho wedding is still your individual day, and will not be exactly like any other wedding.

The best venues are the ones that are pared back to muted tones and natural finishes, so they are the ideal blank canvas for you to design your wedding day masterpiece.

Look for wooden or stone floors, exposed beams, refurbished chapels or barns, gazebos entwined with ivy and fairy lights, or even go completely outdoors for it all.

Using this blank canvas, you can build your masterpiece, in your colour palette or patterns, and with your own personal tweaks and details. The ideal boho venue is a bastion to potential and opportunity; when you see it for the first time you shouldn’t see it already done up, but see the potential for what it can be in your head.

For a wonderful blank canvas, check out True South in Melbourne, a renovated art deco garage.

Beautiful even when unplugged

Modern venues have all the conveniences you could ever need, but the bohemian venue doesn’t need any bells and whistles. It is stunning even when completely unplugged.

It allows you to have a wedding in a blackout if you want to, in a thunderstorm if you like, or set exactly as it would have been 100 years ago.

So, you are not looking for LED dance floors or built-in fireworks displays, and you don’t need flatscreen televisions on the walls to show off slideshows of how you and your partner met. You would prefer it if everyone relinquished their mobile phones at the door and just appreciated your day with their own eyes.

If a venue needs electricity to be stunning, then it is probably not the one for you.

For the perfect unplugged vibe, consider the very unique Donnelly River Village in regional WA.

Devotion to simple pleasures

A boho wedding is about finding the beauty in simple pleasures and enjoying nothing but this moment with these people. It is finding magic in little details and allowing every one of your family and friends be a part of your special day.

It might be having everyone go barefoot, or hiring a bluegrass band to wander around the reception and play.

It might be setting up teepees for chill-out zones with plush rugs and cushions, or having an open bonfire at night to toast marshmallows.

It could be breakfast on the beach, afternoon tea in a park, and a spit roast under the stars.

It can be whatever you want it to be; but look for venues that allow you to slow down, be in the moment and appreciate the little things. For some incredible little details talk to Holiday Inn Warwick Farm in regional NSW.

Hearty food and plentiful drink

A bohemian feast is not about plating up, tiny finger food, or dishes that look like works of art. Boho catering means plenty of food, often in share platters, that showcase regional produce and seasonal flavours.

Bohemian catering will usually follow a paddock to plate philosophy, so look for venues that pick from their own gardens the day they serve the food. Eat the best meat, seafood, fruit, vegetables, nuts and more that your venue has to offer, leaving a tiny carbon footprint and ensuring your feast is organically grown and super fresh.

Look for premium wines and boutique beers and ciders that are brewed on the venue doorstop, and make sure the food and drink keep flowing and flowing and flowing. For a venue that has food and drink to perfect bohemian levels, check out the Old Oval Estate in regional SA.

Welcoming to young and old

A boho wedding is welcoming to everyone; there is nothing upper-class or exclusive about it. Children are invited and are probably even VIP’s, as well as pets. Older generations are made a fuss of, given their own thrones in the centre of festivities.

There is no wedding table perching the bridal party up in front of everyone like some weird museum display; everyone is in together and equal in all of the fun.

Look for a wedding venue that welcomes everyone, and isn’t phased by your suggestions that might extend their flexibility. It is all ages, all classes, all abilities, and all-inclusive, a celebration for everyone.

Consider Inglewood Estate in Victoria, a gorgeous old estate surrounded by native bush, where their hospitality is renowned.

Celebrations that last forever

The best boho weddings turn into festivals that last for days. Look for a venue that can house everybody and everything either within it or nearby.

Choose a destination resort in the country or on a winery, or take over an entire historic town. If you are in the city, find a boutique hotel nearby that everyone can stay in for the weekend.

Offer lawn bowls the morning of your wedding, and a brunch that goes on for most of the day after. Make sure that you see dawn, then sunset, then stars, then dawn again.

For a magical setting you will never want to leave, consider Bundaleer Rainforest Gardens in Brisbane.

11 relationship dealbreakers from real couples

11 relationship dealbreakers from real couples

By Lucy

Do you have any relationship dealbreakers that you’ve let your significant other in on? Or unspoken rules about fidelity, finances or something else? We asked real couples their thoughts on what their relationship dealbreakers were and why, and here were the top 11 results:

Girlfriends in conflict are sitting on the bench and sulking each other

Knowing what your dealbreakers are is important to any couple considering marriage, as if you are both committed to the relationship, then knowing these will give you the best chance at success throughout your future together.

Young couple breaking up
1. Cheating

This one almost goes without saying, but for couples who aren’t in open relationships or polyamorous relationships, being unfaithful is a big dealbreaker. Many mentioned this when asked about relationship dealbreakers. For some, it extends all the way from emotional cheating to the physical act of cheating or sexting, and for others, it may only be feelings that are considered as cheating, but all had the same underlying message- lying to your partner, in general, is unacceptable in every circumstance (bar surprise parties or gifts) and most people won’t tolerate it.

Suspicious guy looking at cheating girlfriend hiding something on smartphone
2. Not letting me put my child or pet first

One anon real bride to be said of her 10-year relationship, that her furbaby came first and she told her partner that before they got engaged. Another noted that her baby will always come first, from the moment she became a mum, she knew that both herself and her hubby would be secondary to her son and his needs, and if her partner didn’t understand and respect that, she would consider that a dealbreaker.

Sad little girl at home being consoled by her parents.
3. Drugs

For some couples, doing drugs is akin to lying or cheating. Especially if the partner is lying about it, spending money they can’t spare on it or has developed a dependence on it. The issue most people have with drugs is the money and/or lying issues that may come along with it more so than the act itself. Once you start hiding things from your partner, it’s safe to say, you know you are doing something wrong. One real bride to be mentioned that her partner started using drugs and the act was less of an issue to her, it was more about the lying and sneaking around, and spending the money that should have been going toward their loans on his habit.

Press freedom concept
4. Rude to Customer Service people

“It’s such a turn-off when someone is rude to waiters or customer service people,” one real bride-to-be said. “I honestly believe that it’s who they really are if they speak to people like that. If you speak nicely to me but rudely to a waiter, then sorry but you’re not good enough.” We agree on this one! Be kind to everyone- no matter what their job is. Lawyer or teacher or waiter, we’re all people and we all deserve respect.

Men at the pub
5. Violence in general

“For me, if I see them exhibiting violent behaviour toward anyone, whether it’s to me, an animal, a stranger or a friend, then that’s a dealbreaker” an anonymous real bride revealed. She noted that a violent nature is not part of her ideal partner and she would see it as a “sign that they’re not right for me”. Amen! We agree on this one. Violence is best kept inside a boxing ring!

6. Not on the same page

Bride to be Elise noted that she would consider someone that continually made assumptions that she would do something for them, like drive them around, cook them dinner or clean up after them to be unsuited to her. It concerned her that this would eventuate into her looking after all of the kids, doing all of the cooking and cleaning and doing the shopping. Further, other users noted that not being “on the same page” would be considered a relationship dealbreaker for them, whether that be in terms of goals, plans for a family, or something else important to you, like health, fitness or religion.

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7. Controlling or Manipulative

So many couples mentioned experiencing previous relationships where the other party was controlling about their clothing, money, how they spend their time and who they talk to. Due to this controlling nature affecting their happiness and ultimately ending the relationships, most people stated that being manipulative or controlling was a complete dealbreaker.

Young couple using laptop at home
8. Ultimatums

Anyone who says “do this for me or I’m leaving you”, especially if it’s not realistic or reasonable is a big one for a lot of couples. Many will feel that this is unnecessary and be offended by being pushed into making a choice. If it’s “cheat on me and I’ll leave you”, then in that case, it’s perfectly acceptable, but making your partner choose between you and their best friend or you or their pet is not healthy.

Addicted to Social Media
9. Financial goals

Ultimately, you want your goals to be the same or similar in most areas, but especially when it comes to money. If you have a partner that likes to gamble and spend frivolously, but you save like crazy and scrimp every chance you get, you may come into troubles when you are planning your futures together. Ideally, you both have similar ideas of saving and your financial goals for a property, super/retirement savings and creating the lifestyle you both envisioned.

Couple near Colosseum
10. Family respect

You need your partner to respect your family and family relationships and allow them to grow and flourish, and even better if they love your family too and are truly a part of it. Read here to see signs that you’re marrying your soulmate.

relationship dealbreakers
11. Xenophobia

“Racism, Homophobia, Transphobia, Sexism, etc is a huge dealbreaker for me”, one recently married Easy Weddings user said. “I definitely make it known early on in a relationship that I am an intersectional feminist and I expect my partner to have very similar values. I am lucky to have found someone who is similar to me in that way and respects my social activism and supports it.”

relationship dealbreakers

So there you have it, 11 relationship dealbreakers. Is yours on the list? Leave in the comments and let us know what relationship dealbreakers you have, if any.

Take your getting ready look to the next level

Take your getting ready look to the next level

By Lucy

So, you’re nearing the wedding day and you’re starting to think about your “getting ready” outfit. Potentially, you’ve discussed some boudoir style getting ready shots with your photographer, and want to look your best. Here’s how to take your wedding day getting ready look to the next level.
Take your robe game up a notch

Many brides-to-be opt for cheap, single-use “bride” robes to wear on their wedding day, but there are a few ways you can create a beautiful look and set yourself up for an elegant and luxurious pre-wedding shoot with your photographer that will be timeless and chic. Why not elevate your robe game and go for a truly beautiful piece that you can use on your wedding day and throughout your honeymoon? For truly beautiful robes that you will treasure for life, consider Belle Mariee Boudoir Robes.

A personalised box of everlasting roses

If you’re wanting to add something a little extra, then a personalised box of roses is a beautiful way to set off those pre-wedding photographs. Perfectly luxurious and a perfect memento of your wedding day for you to keep for as long as they last. These types of roses are meant to last for about a year (until your first wedding anniversary!) but you can always keep the beautiful personalised box forever. Real wedding couple below, Lauren and Adam, opted for a box each, one for the bride and one for the groom, and they complement their wedding day accessories perfectly.

Luxurious lingerie

Of course, you need some luxurious lingerie for your wedding day and for the honeymoon. La Perla has stunning lingerie and slips for under your wedding dress. Dina said that wearing La Perla on her wedding day “made me feel the sexiest woman ever!”

Don’t forget the pedicure

Many brides get their nails done. But don’t forget a pre-wedding pedicure too! Especially if you’re wearing pumps for your wedding. But if you’re doing a boudoir shoot, you may want to take off your shoes at some point and should have perfectly painted toes.

Soaking in nature’s goodness
A killer tan

If you’re planning on getting a tan, then leave it to the professionals. A bad tan can be the difference between looking like a bronzed goddess and looking like you rolled in a bag of nachos.

She is perfect.
Pretty candles

You can get some gorgeous quote candles, personalised or pre-made online. There are some beautiful designs that will look gorgeous along with your wedding day accessories and add some personality to your photographs.

How much to spend on wedding gifts when your friend gets married

How much to spend on wedding gifts when your friend gets married

By Lucy

So, your pal is getting married and you have no concept of how much to spend on gifts for them. There’s the engagement gift, the hens/bucks/hucks and then there’s the wedding gift. So how much do you spend on each and should this change based on how close you are to this bride or groom to be? As always, we have the answers.

Of course, you should be super excited for them first and foremost and then move on to how you can afford to gift them several times and eat something other than two-minute noodles and baked beans for the next 18-months.
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@shhhsilk
So, how much do you shell out?

We recommend about $200-300 for close pals/fam, but never go above your means, and remember that this is for all of your gifts, for their engagement, hens or bucks and their wedding gift. It’s important to think about the cost per plate rule as well, if you’re going to a very luxurious wedding, then you may come to the choice to spend more money overall on attending.

For friends you’re not as close to, spend between $100-$150ish, and $100 for coworkers is acceptable if you keep in mind that cost per plate rule again.
@nemuofficial

@nemuofficial
How do you split it up?

We recommend spending the biggest portion on the wedding gift. Ideally, it should always be the biggest of the gifts. So if, for example, your budget is $200, then spend $100 on the wedding gift, $50 on the engagement gift and $50 on the hen’s gift. If your pal isn’t having an engagement party or hens, then you can choose to add the cash to their wedding gift or leave it out.
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@foxblossomco
Some ideas for wedding gifts

Donating to the Wishing Well/HoneyFund is always going to be a popular choice, but some gifts we love for weddings include:

A class to take together
A date night
A wooden keepsake box
A world map
Matching watches
A piece of artwork
Perfume
Personalised pillowcases
A custom neon light
Tiffany & Co homewares
Books
A map of the stars when and where they got married
A staycation
Luxurious wine glasses
A ring holder made from some of their wedding flowers
Doble walled coffee glasses
A high thread count sheet set
A nice towel set
Matching travel bag tags
A cocktail set
The latest tech
Donation to charity
A “Bridal Box”

Take your getting ready look to the next level

Take your getting ready look to the next level

By Lucy

So, you’re nearing the wedding day and you’re starting to think about your “getting ready” outfit. Potentially, you’ve discussed some boudoir style getting ready shots with your photographer, and want to look your best. Here’s how to take your wedding day getting ready look to the next level.
Take your robe game up a notch

Many brides-to-be opt for cheap, single-use “bride” robes to wear on their wedding day, but there are a few ways you can create a beautiful look and set yourself up for an elegant and luxurious pre-wedding shoot with your photographer that will be timeless and chic. Why not elevate your robe game and go for a truly beautiful piece that you can use on your wedding day and throughout your honeymoon? For truly beautiful robes that you will treasure for life, consider Belle Mariee Boudoir Robes.
Belle Mariee Boudoir Robes

Belle Mariee Boudoir Robes
A personalised box of everlasting roses

If you’re wanting to add something a little extra, then a personalised box of roses is a beautiful way to set off those pre-wedding photographs. Perfectly luxurious and a perfect memento of your wedding day for you to keep for as long as they last. These types of roses are meant to last for about a year (until your first wedding anniversary!) but you can always keep the beautiful personalised box forever. Real wedding couple below, Lauren and Adam, opted for a box each, one for the bride and one for the groom, and they complement their wedding day accessories perfectly.
Photos courtesy of Sass Studios

Photos courtesy of Sass Studios
Photos courtesy of Sass Studios

Photos courtesy of Sass Studios
Luxurious lingerie

Of course, you need some luxurious lingerie for your wedding day and for the honeymoon. La Perla has stunning lingerie and slips for under your wedding dress. Dina said that wearing La Perla on her wedding day “made me feel the sexiest woman ever!”
La Perla

La Perla
La Perla

La Perla
Don’t forget the pedicure

Many brides get their nails done. But don’t forget a pre-wedding pedicure too! Especially if you’re wearing pumps for your wedding. But if you’re doing a boudoir shoot, you may want to take off your shoes at some point and should have perfectly painted toes.

Soaking in nature’s goodness
A killer tan

If you’re planning on getting a tan, then leave it to the professionals. A bad tan can be the difference between looking like a bronzed goddess and looking like you rolled in a bag of nachos.

She is perfect.
Will you already be living together before your wedding day?
Yes
No

Pretty candles

You can get some gorgeous quote candles, personalised or pre-made online. There are some beautiful designs that will look gorgeous along with your wedding day accessories and add some personality to your photographs.

Everything a celebrant will do for your wedding

Everything a celebrant will do for your wedding

By Elise

For couples getting married, it can sometimes be confusing as to what your marriage celebrant will be doing on the day. You might even find yourself asking “what does a celebrant do?”

But there is actually so much more to being a celebrant than just marrying a couple on the day, and a lot of work goes into the background to make sure everything goes to plan.

When you book a celebrant you’re not just booking someone to rock up on the day of the wedding and do a quick ceremony. You’re booking the main supporting character for your wedding day.

Your celebrant will be there for you before you book them to after the wedding day. Whether you’re after a ceremony with all the bells and whistles or a quick tailored ceremony, you’re investing in a celebrants time and expertise to make sure everything goes according to plan.

So if you’re unsure exactly what a celebrant offers your wedding planning journey, here’s everything they can do from before the wedding to after the honeymoon.
what does a celebrant do

Your first meeting

Your first meeting with a celebrant is usually a non-obligation meeting for you to get a sense of what they’re actually like. It’s no surprise that booking a marriage celebrant who matches the vision for your wedding day is important, so meeting your celebrant before you book them is the first step.

This initial meeting can go anywhere between half an hour to an hour and will give you the opportunity to tell your celebrant what you have planned for the day and where you want them to fit into this.

This is already an hour of time that you’ve spent with your celebrant before you’ve even booked or put a deposit down and is the first of many correspondences you’ll have with them.
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If you found the perfect wedding dress, would cost matter?
Yes, it would. I have a budget to stick to!
No, it wouldn’t. I want that dress!

what does a celebrant do

Writing your ceremony from scratch

Once you’ve booked your celebrant the next thing you’ll work on together is the wording of the actual ceremony. If your celebrant hasn’t already, they’ll talk you through the different types of ceremonies they’ve performed so that you can get a sense of what will best suit your vision.

Whatever type of ceremony you’re after, your celebrant will put this together and will work on the perfect wedding and order for you.

This isn’t just a case of putting together a template and reading it on the day. A good celebrant will tailor your wedding ceremony to you and your needs. They’re putting the wording for your ceremony together from scratch and will go back and forth with you as many times as you need before you perfect it together.

Helping with your vows

Your celebrant is also a great support and can help if you are writing your own vows. One thing you might not always think about is how the vows should match one another in tone, style and even length.

Your celebrant can act as a great third party for you and your partner to send your vows to make sure they match. This way you get to make sure they work together without seeing what the other person has written.
what does a celebrant do

Making sure your ceremony is personalised

When it comes to personalising your wedding ceremony, your celebrant is there to help. They’ve done this many times before and will help you with anything you need, whether it’s something common or something outside the box.

You might want to include a tribute to a family member who has passed or a hand-tying ceremony. Whatever it is, your celebrant will be there to make this happen.

They will also make suggestions for you if you’re not quite sure what exactly you want. If you want to involve your parents without quite knowing how they’ll give you suggestions about how you can go about that. Best of all they can help with ideas on not only what you can do, but also how you can do it.

The same goes for choosing readings. Not only will they have a great knowledge of what readings you can choose from or what might be suited for you, but they can also help coordinate who is doing what readings and making sure they all have what they need on the day.
what does a celebrant do

Providing ongoing support

For couples who don’t have a wedding planner or coordinator, your marriage celebrant is the supplier who will be there throughout the entire wedding process. Think about this, they’re one of the first suppliers you’ll book and they are there throughout the process. If your celebrant is sick they can’t send you off to someone else in the business. And you know that it is always that person who you first met and get along with who will be there on the day.

Which means that they are the best source of support and knowledge for you throughout your entire wedding planning process. Whether you’ve got questions about other suppliers, your ceremony, or even if you’re looking for recommendations, your celebrant is there.
what does a celebrant do

The legal stuff

75% of all marriages are performed by a marriage celebrant. Consider this, if you didn’t have someone to legally marry you then you’re essentially just having one big party!

Which is why celebrants are actually the most important supplier when it comes to getting married. When it comes to the legal stuff, they worry about all of the paperwork so that you don’t have to.

This means making sure all your identification and forms for your marriage license are filled out correctly ahead of time. It also means making sure that your witnesses details are correct, and that they can properly hear and witness you say your “I do’s”.
what does a celebrant do

What they do on your actual wedding day

Once all of this is planned and ready, your celebrant is there for you on the actual wedding day.

They essentially act as your ceremony MC, bringing guests in to fill chairs at your venue, telling people whether you’re having an unplugged wedding, announcing when photos will be taken or what is happening after the ceremony. And last by not least, actually marrying you!

Not only this but many celebrants can also offer their own PA system for the ceremony, meaning that everyone can hear you say your vows and you don’t need to hire another supplier for this. Some will also provide you with a table and tablecloth so you have something to lean on when it comes to signing your papers.

They’ll also make sure all your paperwork is ready to go on the day. Whether it’s the wording for your ceremony, your vows or your personalised readings, your celebrant will bring a copy of all of these so you don’t need to worry if you’ve left yours at home. They’ll also have all the legal forms you and your witnesses need to sign on the day, and actually make sure you’ll all signing on the correct dotted line!

A good celebrant will also know where to stand for the ceremony to help you get the best possible photos. The last thing you want is a floating head in the middle of your first kiss photo!
what does a celebrant do

After the wedding

A celebrant’s job doesn’t finish at the wedding ceremony. While you’re off enjoying your honeymoon they’ll submit all of your legal forms to Births, Deaths and Marriages for you to make sure your marriage is actually recognised.

Meaning the only thing you have to do is what they legally can’t do for you; apply for your wedding certificate (rather than the decorative one) because it needs to be done by someone in the actual marriage.