How late is ‘fashionably late’ to arrive at your wedding ceremony?
Thinking of arriving ‘fashionably late’ to your own wedding? Here’s what you need to know before deliberately delaying your wedding day plans.
It’s become a bit of a trend that the bride lets her betrothed sweat a little while waiting for her at the altar. But is this really necessary – how late is ‘fashionably late’, and how late is actually late.
Obviously, if a bride arrives at her ceremony and notices that her guests are still arriving, it’s fine to take a quick bog lap in the limousine and allow everyone to take their seats and get comfortable.
Arriving fashionably late would have you walking down the aisle 10 to 15 minutes after everyone’s seated and the ceremony has officially begun. Most guests will allow for this and might even expect it – though they should still arrive earlier than the specified ceremony time to allow for any parking mishaps or traffic.
While it’s good fun to see the groom hopping around at the altar in anticipation to see his bride, your guests will start to get bored if you leave them waiting for more than 20 to 30 minutes. Arriving 20 to 30 minutes after your ceremony is supposed to start is not fashionably late – if deliberate, it’s inconsiderate to your guests, your fiance, and your officiant.
Think about it – if you were a wedding guest, would you want to wait around for an extra 20 to 30 minutes for the bride to arrive? And what if it were a hot day in the full sun? Put yourself in your guests’ shoes before arranging your late arrival.
What time you should be there
In theory, your ceremony should begin at the time specified on your invitation. Your invitations should ask guests to arrive beforehand to be seated, so they don’t accidentally arrive at the same time you begin walking down the aisle.
While you can’t always guarantee you’ll arrive on time, you should at least try to make the ceremony start-time specific on your invitation. Venues often have multiple weddings booked on a single day, so while you might think it’s “your day”, you’re actually running on their schedule too! As a consequence, if you are deliberately late to your ceremony, you may cut into your actual ceremony duration.
And why would you want to be late anyway – it’s your wedding day! Get the party started as soon as you possibly can!
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Your bridal boutique questions answered!
Did you know Easy Weddings has an expert advice section entirely dedicated to getting your questions answered by those who know best? This is just a taste of the many questions being asked daily by real brides and grooms across Australia. Here are your bridal boutique questions answered by real industry experts!
Q: Is it better to walk into a bridal boutique or to book an appointment?
A: by Bernice Fashions and Designer Bridal House
“If you are able to make an appointment, it is most certainly worth it so that you can have the one-on-one time and try on in comfort. We do take walk-ins, though if we are busy at that time, it may not always be possible. Our studio is small with lots of variety and we prefer to give you an experience. We also offer appointments after hours if this is required.” – Bernice Fashions
“We highly recommend that you make an appointment for a one-on-one bridal experience with a consultant. You would be offered a full hour to try on as many dresses as you like! With walk-ins, you may have to wait around for a change room. The bridal shopping experience should be one of the most exciting and enjoyable parts of planning your wedding!” – Designer Bridal House
Q: Do I have to bring bridesmaids to my fittings?
“I’m not having bridesmaids and my mum actually lives overseas. Is it okay to come alone?”
A: by Raffinato Bridal
“It is perfectly fine to come to your appointments solo – in fact a lot of brides do for their first time. Of course, having your mum and bridesmaids there is fantastic, but can sometimes get a little bit overwhelming with all eyes being on you. Also, everyone is going to have an opinion of gowns which can also become a little much.
Bridal consultants are friendly and often quite chatty, so there is no reason to stress about going alone. Plus, at our store, you’re more than welcome to take a couple of snaps to send to your bridesmaids or even Skype/Facetime your mum during your appointment to keep them involved!”
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Q: What happens if a store only carries up to a size 16 but I’m an 18?
“Does that mean I miss out? Will something still fit me?”
A: by Maggie’s Bridal Centre
“This can be very frustrating for brides as everyone loves to see a gown fitting well before making the commitment to purchase. I would suggest calling ahead and making sure every store you plan to visit has gowns in your size range so you can enjoy your day shopping rather than being frustrated. If the gowns are a size or two too big, you can usually be pinned in or have a panel pinned into the back so you can get a feel for how it would look when perfectly fitted.”
Q: Pros and cons of having multiple wedding dresses/outfit changes?
A: by Raffinato Bridal
“Pros: you get to wear two beautiful gowns on your wedding day; there will be no need to pay for a bustle on your first gown (to hold the train up for mobility at the reception); your guests will get a beautiful surprise at your reception; and you may be more comfortable. If you are planning on wearing a princess gown during your ceremony, then a knee-length gown for your reception will allow you to be able to move around a little better during the night, and you’ll get to use the bathroom without the help of your bridesmaids!
Cons: the cost of not only both gowns, but also alterations of both gowns; and maybe the stress of waiting for one gown to arrive – if one gown arrive before another it might cause a bit of stress while you wait for the other one.”
Q: If I’m shopping by myself do I still have to book an appointment with dress stores?
A: by Wedding Shop On The Move
“If you prefer one-on-one service you are best to make an appointment. Some bridal shops will take walk-ins generally at the beginning of the week, as it can be a more suitable time for them. I accept walk-ins but prefer appointments for the weekend.”
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